Sunday, April 14, 2013

 
“On The Count Of Six You Will Open Your Eyes…”

 A 6 Part Course revealing the truth about Hypnosis By Jonathan Clark Master Hypnotherapist Founder & Developer of HGE™  

PART 1

Now be honest with me, be honest with me …. A little bit anxious about learning self-hypnosis? That’s OK, most people do feel a little wary of trance and all that you can learn while you’re in a trance You hear a lot of weird things about this thing called Hyp……ah………hypnosis People ask a lot of funny questions. You’ve probably heard people who’ve done stage show hypnosis say that they couldn’t have been hypnotised because “they could hear everything the Hypnotist was saying” Well, that’s funny from my point of view. I’m going to see to it that we dispel a lot of the illusions around this subject. I want to rearrange any notions you had about it.  

You see, I show people how to run their own brains, and I’m going to reveal to you the truth behind the technology called Hypnosis.

 Everyone’s heard of it, right? Have you ever read a book about it? Or been to a Hypnosis stage show? Perhaps you’ve taken some training, or even been to see a Hypnotherapist. Top Hypnotherapists have evolved an incredibly effective way of training, stimulating learning and unconscious …change …in their students. I’m going to share with you a whole range of trance techniques that seem to work like magic. This is a step-by-step practical chapter, with each exercise building on the last.

The questions you’re probably asking yourself even now are: What am I going to gain here? How can I use this to impact others? What possibilities are there if I use this stuff called Hypnosis? How do I apply it, practically in the real world? For what purpose could I use the tools I’m leaving with? What’s the right way to learn to go into a trance? What will this do for me? Now I want to rearrange any notions that you ….had….about Hypnosis. It’s completely different from what you thought of. And I’m going to teach you indirect & direct techniques. I want to share with you techniques that are not normally taught on Hypnosis trainings, because these are pulled from literature. I’m a researcher – I like to go deep. I like going deeply into something…. We’re not going to do Direct Authoritarian hypnosis – that’s old hat. We’re Indirect.

Most of what we cover is based on the work of Milton H. Erickson The two kinds of hypnosis are as follows:

1. Hetero-hypnosis, where there is one person being the hypnotist/hypnotherapist, giving the suggestions, and one subject who is going into trance. The hypnotist leads the client through a self-relaxation process, which creates the hypnotic state. Effectively the hypnotist suggests to the client that they can relax themselves, and assuming the client wants to, they will follow those instructions.

2. Self, or auto-hypnosis, is where a person goes into a hypnotic trance, which is self-induced. In this process, the subject relaxes himself or herself as before and is in effect both the client and the hypnotist. Learning to run your own body with your own mind.

In both instances, the hypnotic state is a relaxed, attentive state that a person can only induce in themselves. In other words, no one can hypnotise you, you are responsible for creating that state in your own nervous system. Assuming you want to go into trance, you are able to relax and you are willing to accept suggestions, you will be in the hypnosis state. When one is relaxed or tired, one becomes more susceptible to suggestions. Hypnosis is simply creating that condition on purpose. Self-hypnosis is a convenient tool that anyone can learn to use, and does not require a therapist, complicated rituals, a pyramid to sit under, membership fees or any other added complications. The ultimate in self-discovery, you can do it anytime you choose, wherever you are, whatever you are doing.

You learn to “go inside” and talk to the oldest and wisest part of you that runs your body, memories and emotions, and who always tells you the truth. This conscious and unconscious connection will help you grow and evolve as you uncover the real you, and learn more about why you do what you do and your deepest needs, wants and limitations than you ever have before. As a result, your level of congruence will increase as you minimize any internal conflict and get all of you on your own side. Once you are familiar with relaxing and listening to your inner mind, you can begin to clear the limitations that hold you back and that you subsequently project onto the world. As your internal map of the world improves, so does reality on the outside, and you will attract more of the opportunities, people and coincidences that you want.

Self-hypnosis gives you the ability to influence and change your beliefs, behaviours and emotions, meaning you can be more of the person you want to be, amplifying all your best traits and minimizing all your worst. Learning to create a calm, relaxed, inner-directed state of mind reduces stress, and creates optimism and a positive outlook. You will run more positive internal representations and thus give yourself suggestions that are more positive. It also teaches you self-discipline and control, as you learn that you really are in charge of your own mind. With self-awareness comes self-understanding, as you learn to run your own head, thoughts and emotions.

Of course this can help with self-healing, be it mental wounds from previous upsets and traumas, or physical healing, knowing that he mind runs the body and can influence its recovery and optimal state. Personally, I have a strong need for calmness and peace. The more I meditate, use trance and visualisation techniques, the calmer and more content I become. My health is extremely important to me, coming from a family background of ill health, and living in the European capital for heart disease, cancer and strokes, I am highly motivated to practice anything that boosts my health and happiness. As part of my own passion as an HGE Trainer, Life Coach and student of Huna, my study of self-hypnosis both deepens my knowledge and experience of Hypnosis, and raises my self confidence and references for what I teach. I firmly believe that as a teacher and adviser I should always be learning and growing, deepening my experience and broadening my horizons.

My own growth and evolution is pulling me towards Huna and other esoteric studies and I have learned that the discipline and practice of self-hypnosis can only help my growth. I do lots of public speaking and presentations, trainings and seminars and have done for 22 years– and I use elements of stage hypnotist skills. Richard Bandler, the man who started NLP, said a good presenter should be a good stage hypnotist. Now I’m a Master Hypnotherapist and I do a lot of one on one therapy work with clients, and have done now for over 22 years – I use trance work with all my clients. All change requires trance you see. I’m also a Life Coach, which means people hire me as a mentor/business consultant – so I use hypnosis skills over the phone too. Imagine that… Picture an iceberg floating in the ocean. You have a Conscious mind. That’s only the tip of the iceberg. And your unconscious …..mind is here too… That’s the far bigger part of the whole, and most of it lies unseen, beneath the surface… Erickson said clients are clients because there is a lack of rapport between your Conscious Mind and your unconscious

FEATURES / FUNCTIONS OF THE "TWO MINDS" Conscious Mind As we discuss these two functions and educate you, notice the effect it starts to have inside your head… 134 bits per second sequential – one after the other logical linear – this causes that asks "why?" a lot, questions thinking waking state voluntary movements aware of only now tries to understand problem goal setter deliberate, on purpose verbal analyses, picks apart attends to information limited, narrow focus cognitive learnings

 Unconscious Mind everything else, 2 million bps simultaneous – all at once intuitive, associates things together quantum – all connected knows why feeling sleeping, dreaming involuntary movements storehouse of all memories knows solution goal getter automatic, always on nonverbal – no words, speechless synthesizes, absorbs records information unlimited, expansive experiential learnings

Milton Erickson practiced from 1920 till he died in 1980. So over 60 years he’d see about 14 patients a day, sometimes 7 days a week. He typed out all his inductions on a typewriter – using the hunt and peck method. Just using one or maybe 2 fingers….. 30 typed single spaced, narrow margins of all the ways he could figure out to go into a trance easily With experience he was able to get it all the way down to 25 pages Then 20 Then 15 And then 10 pages And then 9, 8 pages…… And then ssssssssss 6 pages, then all the way down to ffff 4 pages And then mmm 3 then 2 Then 1 then he reduced it down further….to one paragraph Then one sentence… “I realised I didn’t need to use words at all” he said I could even take you with me into a deep trance nonverbally

He once did an interesting experiment with an Idiot Savante – someone who knows about everything to do with one particular subject, but very little else. Erickson once got this chap to hide a pin somewhere on a University Campus, so Erickson had no idea where it was. Then, just by holding this man’s wrist, he walked straight to the pin. And he did it by paying attention to the micro muscle movements in the man’s arm. Anytime they walked towards the pin, the man would unconsciously tense and resist, almost imperceptibly, and Erickson could sense that resistance, which told him he was going in the right direction. Anytime he relaxed his arm as they walked away from the pin, Erickson knew that was the wrong way to go. Maybe you’ve seen the gifted and skilled magician and performer Derren Brown do the same thing on Channel 4’s “Mind Control” programme in the UK. I went to see Derren’s live show last year and he’s extremely good at what he does.                                                                                                                                                                                               

Oh, and by the way, it’s impossible to be in a room where someone is being hypnotised, and not go into a trance yourself… All the hypnosis literature said “Just get rapport”, and then induce trance. We talked about that earlier in this book. Thank goodness HGE denominalised Rapport and turned it into a process that you can learn and practice. And now you know how to do that. If you can’t remember, go back and read the rapport chapter again. Hypnotic suggestions come to us both verbally and nonverbally, all day, every day. In their book “Healing Yourself With Self-Hypnosis” authors Frank Caprio M.D. and Joseph R. Berger listed the many ways we both give and receive suggestions every day, including:

DIRECTLY: A direct suggestion is any verbal statement or physical action that is to the point and given in a "command" manner. "Everybody stand up!" "Eat your food." "Come here."

INDIRECTLY: Indirect suggestions are primarily nonverbal motions or sound to which we often respond without being aware of doing so. Yawn, and you cause others to yawn. Smile, and you cause others to smile. Look upward, and you cause others to look upward.

BY INFERENCE: Inferred suggestions are basically the same as indirect suggestions in that they are subtle and often nonverbal. They differ in that they convey a message from one person to another person or group. Pointing a finger to suggest "Come here" . . . Nodding your head to indicate affirmation . . . Making a fist to suggest violent action . . .

FROM PRESTIGE: Prestige suggestions are those we act upon with no questions, simply because we respect and believe the authority of the source. Small children believe their parents. We believe our doctors. We believe our teachers.

FROM EMOTIONAL APPEALS: Emotional appeals are those responses that change a person's emotional state, thereby evoking feelings or sensations that the person associates with the event. Shouting or threats causing panic . . . Antagonizing or "needling" causing anger . . . Gentleness or empathy causing happiness or crying . . .

BY SOCIAL DICTATES: These are suggestions that "lead" or "appeal" to a person's desire to belong or conform. The phrases "follow the crowd" and "peer pressure" refer to socially dictated suggestions. Fashion . . . hem lines are "up" this year. Politics . . . that candidate stands for the worker. Language . . . words change meaning by increased general usage and acceptance, such as "gear" and "gay."

NEGATIVE CLICHE SUGGESTIONS: There are literally hundreds of phrases that are repeated so often that they actually become a part of our belief systems. Money goes to money. It's not what you know, it's who you know. You just can't win, no matter how hard you try. Look before you leap, and then he who hesitates is lost. The rat race – win it, and you’re still a rat! You can’t beat the system.

NEGATIVE SUGGESTIONS/PHYSICAL MANIFESTATIONS: How many times have you heard or said a phrase so often that it becomes true? He makes me sick. My job gives me a pain in the neck. Her kids drive me crazy. Now, there are lots of different ways of inducing trance, to make suggestions stick. Television has been proven to be more trancey than staring at a blank wall. “Trance” – it’s a word that people have funny connotations to. Trance is an everyday state – a dozy, sleepy state similar to the way you feel when you’ve just woken up, or you’re just drifting off….. The Scottish word is “Dwam”. Or like when you’re sunbathing – you hear a man and his dog walking by, and you could sit up and open your eyes, but its too much like hard work. It’s easier just to have your eyes stay closed… Your First Hypnosis Exercise…

Try this for a minute. Read these instructions, then try out this quick self-hypnosis induction. Relax your gaze, and let it fix on something you can see – an object, a picture, whatever. Then notice 5 other things you can see. Now listen to what you can hear, your breathing, a clock ticking, whatever. Then listen for 5 other sounds – birds, the wind, pipes creaking, anything. Then become aware of how you feel sitting there, the chair or the seat you’re on, then 5 other things you can feel. Notice how that changes your state gently…

Now look for 4 things, listen for 4, feel 4 Then 3 things Then 2 things …and that means you’re becoming more and more relaxed with every breath you take every move you make every single day, every word I say I’ll be watching you…….. I could just pace your current experience And you’ll notice the heaviness setting in As the blood flow to your limbs increases And the more heavy your arms and legs the more you relax Remember when you were in school And you were writing a lot and your hand got numb And you looked down at your own hand and asked yourself “Is that really my hand?” cos it felt kind of disconnected

Sometimes when I tell people what I do, they try and test me They say “OK then, can you make my arm lift unconsciously?” And I think to myself there’s 159 muscles between your finger and shoulder And that means you can’t lift it any other way……. Only un-consciously……… I mean have you noticed yet that one of your hands feels differently from the other hand…. That means…..the one that feels cooler, or maybe hotter The heavier of the two, or will it be the lighter of the two Will begin to rise up Maybe it’s just tingling at the moment Small jerky movements getting bigger…and bigger Every time you breathe in your hands will lift all by themselves Now I don’t know which hand will begin to lift first The right……the left Whichever hand your Unconscious …wants to lift It may be the right hand It’s always the right hand That’s right Or sometimes it’s the hand that’s left Whatever hand isn’t holding the book Or maybe it is the hand holding the book Lifting……..lifting………. Your unconscious …..does want to communicate….doesn’t it? If all else fails, every 90 minutes you will go into a trance. In 1986 Ernest Rossi wrote about Ultradian Rhythms, like a very trancey biorhythm. Just wait for it to come around again… Pauses……………..work well Any questions so far?

Ernest Rossi wrote a four Vallium set of books – the complete works of Milton Erickson. He wrote loads of books about Hypnosis – all are worth digesting. Erickson died in 1980. Erickson & Rossi continued to produce books together till 1986. Now that bears thinking about… I’m into researching the data, the specifics. I am anal only in that respect. I like to know where the information comes from. In your second instalment of this E-Course, you’ll learn all about the History of Hypnosis, and I’ll teach you the Shaman State – the prized secret trance state used by the amazing Kahuna of old Hawaii…

BUT if you'd like to learn Hypnosis on a live seminar, go HERE

Wednesday, July 04, 2012

Yay! Facebook have finally released a Wordpress plugin. And I know that sounds like gobbledigook to most non-techies :-)

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Did you know that Facebook has just changed your email address? http://ping.fm/veMoj

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Went into trance when I read the car park ticket machine telling me "change is possible..."

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Facebook offering local businesses free advertising til July 31st http://ping.fm/jr5wT

Sunday, June 24, 2012

Glasgow social media marketing predictions for 2012 http://ping.fm/E7CdI
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Friday, June 22, 2012

Social media for Glasgow businesses - Tune into Pulse Radio 98.4 FM and hear me interviewed by Action Coach Andy Goldberg at 2pm

Thursday, June 21, 2012

I'll be the guest on Pulse 98.4FM with great tips on how to promote you and your business online, Friday 22nd at 2:00pm!

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

I just received a cd in the post with videos on it, signed with lipstick...
Glasgow interior designer summer contest extended! http://ping.fm/CXPiw

Monday, June 18, 2012

50% of all Google searches will be on a phone or tablet by 2013. What plans do you have to tap into that?
67 million iPads sold in the first 2 years. No other product has sold so much in 2 years. Not Coca Cola, not even McDonalds...

Saturday, June 16, 2012

Now Google+ ranks as the 5th largest Social Media Website in the U.S., compared to number 8 two weeks ago.

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Look out for 3 Facebook scams - the dislike button, cashback and "who's viewed your profile" - all to be avoided!
So have you got a spare £120,000 to buy the new domain names like .bank or .shop?
Pinterest is now getting more visitors than Linkedin, Youtube and Google + combined. If you want in, ask me for an invitation.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

If you could go into business with anyone, who would it be and why?
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Monday, June 11, 2012

When it comes to my work, there's Cheap, Good & Fast. You can have any 2, but not the 3rd
Working on a way to link Amazon affiliate sales with Pinterest – will keep you posted
"We've got social media guys in our networking group, but I like what you're doing better" - client feedback
The danger of poor spelling… http://ping.fm/R5WNL
“If you are looking for energy, vitality, and a constant stream of ideas to recharge, change and develop your business do not hesitate to contact Jonathan. He keeps delivering.”

Sunday, June 10, 2012

Glasgow mobile marketing looking to help restaurants http://ping.fm/FXG5S

Saturday, June 09, 2012

Need some help with your Glasgow small business marketing? We’ll work for free http://ping.fm/Frzps
“Life must be lived forward, but can only be understood backward”

Friday, June 08, 2012

Client feedback “Jonathan's work on SEO and assistance in re-positioning my company for kitchen installations is fantastic”

Thursday, June 07, 2012

Dumfries leather care and repair goes live http://ping.fm/Yc8Cl
9 excuses for not going to Glasgow networking events http://ping.fm/ueLGR
Quick quiz – if you were to have a last meal, what would you eat and who would it be with?
Remember Green Slime that came in a tub? Same thing in Asda £1 called Cyber Clean cleans your PC keyboard! Messy, useful and fun!

Wednesday, June 06, 2012

A social media marketing strategy that I bet you’ll never use http://ping.fm/XQcyh
If you’d like to start a new income stream here’s my new coaching club http://ping.fm/AowVk
Sooo tempted to name and shame our recent cowboy builders online – what do you think?

Monday, June 04, 2012

By popular demand I'm running a 2 day Huna intensive "Miracles On Demand" in June http://ping.fm/H4DuU
Last week to enter the free Interior Design contest at http://ping.fm/LOqli
Poll about the current business climate – recession everyone’s skint, or there’s always money to be made? Comments plz

Sunday, June 03, 2012

I don't care how many visitors your site gets - this is what matters http://ping.fm/a6mZm

Saturday, June 02, 2012

The wonderful Ping.fm shuts down June 15th and is replaced by Seesmic, so now's the time to set it up!

Friday, June 01, 2012

Have you seen this contest to win a free interior design makeover? http://ping.fm/U9ihl
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Wednesday, May 30, 2012

If you’d like warm referrals for your business come to one of our Glasgow networking events http://ping.fm/H5u2A

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Glasgow Interior Designer offering chance to win a FREE makeover http://ping.fm/5WdUh

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Another batch of freshly baked NLP + HGE Practitioners step out into the world from our 28th Glasgow NLP Practitioner course...

Friday, May 25, 2012

Blogging is like sex... Comments plz at http://ping.fm/xStW2
4 new Glasgow restaurants wanting online video marketing done for them. Cool :-)

Thursday, May 24, 2012

"I learned more in 20 mins with Jonathan than in a whole morning social media seminar" - Printer, Glasgow

Monday, May 21, 2012

"You shouldn't care about the past - step forward and see the whole wide world!" - Luke Clark, aged 6, today in the garden

Friday, May 18, 2012

TGI Friday - what a week - 7 appointments, 3 coaching calls, 3 social media seminars, 2 BNI mornings and a networking group. Phew!
Home after watching my wee boy sing at school assembly, now watching Facebook be the 2nd biggest stock market flotation ever

Thursday, May 10, 2012

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Monday, May 07, 2012

Prepared a killer Glasgow social media for business presentation for tomorrow http://ping.fm/HtJKn
Glasgow Hypnotherapy Offers gastric band hypnotherapy http://ping.fm/Oo2Xo
Just in from the hell that is bank holiday B&Q - full of reluctant men being told what they should be fixing

Friday, May 04, 2012

I only get one chance a year to say this - May the 4th be with you!

Thursday, May 03, 2012

I literally walked face first into the patio door & nearly broke my nose! What’s that telling me?

Sunday, April 29, 2012

9 Excuses For Not Attending Glasgow Networking Events http://ping.fm/ug8IF

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

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Thursday, April 19, 2012

The Internet Is Ruining Your Brain http://ping.fm/gC48q
Which Social Network Should You Use -- and When? [INFOGRAPHIC]... http://ping.fm/dwKl3
Ever lost your mobile phone? Look at who else has http://ping.fm/yWqid

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Luke is back to school this week and although I miss him, I’m getting so much more done!

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Glasgow feed in tariff advice for solar pv - watch Ian's video http://ping.fm/1FKHT

Saturday, April 14, 2012

If you like films with happy endings don't watch The Grey with Liam Neeson!
First visit to Hamilton in over 20 years and glad to say it's finally staggered into the 21st Century!

Friday, March 30, 2012

Lead Generation Glasgow is now an approved Google Agency, so we can offer ANYONE £50 of free advertising on Google. Any takers?
"Just can't thank you enough, you have helped him change his life around" - client feedback after son hadn't been to school in 4 years

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Today my wee boy met Graham Obree and The Easter Bunny. Guess which made the most impact?
Fell off my bike last night. Funny thing was I was stationary at the time :-)

Friday, March 23, 2012

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Tuesday, March 20, 2012

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Monday, March 19, 2012

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Sunday, March 18, 2012

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Saturday, March 17, 2012

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Monday, March 12, 2012

The client is always right – always?

Saturday, March 10, 2012

"Haven't looked back since our breakthrough session- Head of Talent at Vodafone & Santander, 3 books, award winning blog. Thank you again."

Thursday, March 08, 2012

Training NLP the easy way in Edinburgh April 7th http://ping.fm/9rMJ4

Monday, March 05, 2012

What would you do if gravity stopped for one minute a day?

Friday, March 02, 2012

Just uploaded a video in YouTube. Check: http://ping.fm/UbgQV
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Tuesday, February 28, 2012

NLP Scotland - Perception is projection

Kristin Zambucka said in her book “The Seed” : “Though I may travel far I will meet only what I carry with me, for every man is a mirror. We see only ourselves reflected in those around us. Their attitudes and actions are reflections of our own. The whole world and its conditions has its counterpart within us all. Turn the gaze inward. Correct yourself and your world will change.”

Go back and look at the HGE communication model

Here’s the argument. The world is my creation – even if it’s not true, you’d better believe it. Everything in the Universe is you! Your Universe is yours! There’s nothing outside of you that isn’t you. You filter everything as it comes in, but what if it works the same way on the way out? What if your body is like an overhead projector, and the light streaming out is your energy. Your model of the world is the acetate, and what shows up on the screen (your reality) is exactly what’s written on the acetate.

You’re projecting holographically in 360 degrees, all of the time! You filter 2 million bits of information per second down to 134 per second, and leave bits in that fit your map of the world. Remember that the 5 senses are just electrical interpretations in your brain. You don’t experience raw data, you experience your interpretation of the data.

So ask yourself, the people in your world – are they happy? Angry? Have money? In good relationships? Are they like you? Could it be that they are just grey silhouettes, until you look at them, when you project a hologram over them of how you expect them to look and behave. Your world is a projection of you. Quantum Physics says that reality is relative to the observer. Every person creates a unique world which can never be 100% identical to that of another. Observation changes reality – just by being present, you alter the course of event.

Evil can only exist if it exists in your mind, and only what you allow. If you feel like a victim you are probably victimising someone. If you feel like you are being manipulated, you are probably manipulating. People who act as caretakers for others may be avoiding taking care of themselves. What you see is who you are. The people in your life are a barometer of your experience of life. The significant people in your world are a reflection of your internal state

How we Construct Reality
 We create what we observe.
 We observe with our minds.
 Observations are measurements.
 Measurements transform nothing into something.
 We make measurements through our language.

A Kahuna wouldn’t do a healing if there was someone present who didn’t believe, or was there to prove it didn’t work (and if there was, that was the Kahuna’s projection). So they’d go home and work on themselves, asking “For what purpose did I create a doubter or sceptic? Where am I doubting myself?”. As inside, so outside. verything you love about your partner is you. And everything you hate about them is you also. There is a theory that e marry our Unconscious Mind and blame all our unresolved stuff on them. You can’t see something you’re not. The more energy you give it, the more you’ll find it. “Energy goes where attention flows”.

What's more, for you to perceive something in someone, it has to exist in you. Perception is projection. So it's not them, it's you. What you observe is an aspect of you. Heal it in you and it vanishes outside. You did not consciously choose to create this problem, but you may have unconsciously. And your unconscious mind has only positive intentions for you in everything that it does.

CLEANING UP YOUR PROJECTIONS
Go easy on yourself! It’s focussing you on what you want, it’s perfect!

Apply to self – where else am I doing this?
I’ve created a projection of….
Now - What do I need to learn from this, such that if I clear it, this will never happen again?
How can I prevent this from happening again?
What’s the need in you that’s unmet at the moment?
Clear any negative emotion with Higher Self Therapy, Time Line therapy, or Hakalau
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Basic Healing with the Elements

Test & Future Pace – Is it bothering me?
Dwell on the new outcome
The highest form of revenge is indifference
Let it go so you no longer “get plugged in”

What if you really could create what you want – what would you ask for? Your thoughts are law in your universe. Taneo Sands Kumelae said “The people you hate, you bind to you as much as if you loved them”. If you notice it, you’re projecting it right now. If its unresolved, it’ll keep coming back until you get the learnings.
“If you don’t pay with attention, you pay with pain”

A Little Black Bag opens up – ask yourself “What is the learning I need to get right now to let this go?”. Oh and by the way, there’s usually another set at a higher evolutionary level, so there’s always more to clear. The lesson of life is Physical Emotional Mental Spiritual. You deal with a problem on one level, but later in life it comes back, at another level. So a physical problem you had years ago may return, but this time it’s from a spiritual challenge. Something you clear may come back again on a different level. We need to keep evolving and growing in that direction.

You achieve a new state of consciousness, then stuff comes up to be handled. The next time a major issue returns, look at the opportunity – go where the resistance is
You can’t clear it out if you don’t know its there. Awareness is Progression.

Training NLP - Cause & Effect

This is where HGE excels, when we talk about the first concept of Cause vs Effect

1. RESULTS VS REASONS
One of my Master Trainers once shared this as an afterthought and I’ve been teaching it ever since, because I think its so profound.

In life, you either get the result that you want, or you can give me a whole bunch of reasons why you don’t. Another word for reasons is excuses

There Are Only 3 Reasons/Excuses

1. Negative Emotions – Anger, Sadness, Fear
2. Ineffective Behaviours – “running West looking for a sunrise”
3. Limiting Beliefs – “I can’t… I’m not…”

Now some people use this model as an excuse to be harsh, or to blame. It’s not about that. It’s about responsibility:

• “Responsibility” = the ability to respond
• It’s not about fault, or blame, or guilt
• It’s about handling it.
• What are you going to do about it?

There are certain rules we operate from in HGE. The 1st teaching of HGE is the assumption of C>E. For us to get maximum personal power we need to take maximum responsibility for everything that happens in our world. It took me a long time to “get” this.

In our culture at them moment it’s a case of “If at first you don’t succeed blame someone else, then sue the bastard!” Or in relationships your partner says “make me happy”. Wrong – only they can make themselves happy. They need to do something.
The effects that occur in our lives are our own. You either created it, manifested it or attracted it. So rather than say “I would have succeeded too if it wasn’t for ….” Ask yourself “For what purpose did I create this?” Which side are you on? Are you the cause, or are you at the effect? If a pigeon shits on my shoulder, am I responsible? Yes! I might have shat on someone this morning. For Every Effect there’s always a Cause. Is it you? And how are you going to handle it?

Why is Cause & Effect important?
C>E is the principle that for every effect, there is a cause. Everything that happens has a cause. You would be more empowered if you operated from the C side, besides it’s always nice to go to the C side (groan). When you’re at Cause you always have a choice. Moving to cause = creating more choices. A lot of people learn this then use it as a place to hide behind, so they can abdicate responsibility and blame their shit on you

If you're at the Effect end, you blame other people, circumstances, and all the external things outside, for how you feel inside. "Life's a bitch, it's not my fault, why me, it's not fair." Effect people use words like "should", "I don't know", "I'll try", "he makes me". If it’s meant to be it’ll happen – advocate all responsibility, put the cause outside self. You have no choice and can’t do anything about it. You’re choosing to accept a bunch of reasons or excuses for not having your result.

If you're at the Cause end, you accept that you create your own universe, and everything that happens you have either attracted or created unconsciously. You're honest with yourself and you accept responsibility (the ability to respond). The more responsibility you take, the more support you get from your surroundings. Empowered people use words like "I know I can do that", "I will", "I choose to". "The universe I'm in is perfect right now. However, there are some things I would change." The responsibility for change lies with the client - you simply facilitate it. You can't do it for them, and you don't do it "to" them. You simply show them how to do it for themselves.

From the book on Provocative Therapy by Frank Farrelly, I’ve borrowed Frank’s blame list. Just so you know, these are all excuses.

Blame List

BODY DESTINY FAMILY
Biology Astrology Parents
Body Type Bad Luck Brothers
Deficiencies God Sisters
Genetics Satan Children
Heredity Karma
Hormones Past Lives SOCIETY
Looks Boss
Menopause HISTORY Education
Nerves Age Law
Nutrition Childhood Politics
Origins Media
NATURE Birth Order Men
Nurturing Women
Yin MIND TV
Yang Unconscious MTV
Culture

Frank said that clients go through 4 stages with this concept:

1 Client is provoked into a series of experiences that leave him/her
Astonished
Uncertain
Even outraged

2 Client’s protests reduce and begins to realise they must change, not the therapist

3 Client affirms that therapist’s opinion of them is wrong

4 Integration – client no longer protests. Confidence and adaptability increasing.

You have to get the results for yourself. You have to take 100% responsibility & do whatever it takes to achieve them. You (the reader of this book) are responsible for getting value from this book yourself. As another one of my teachers once said “I can be your tour guide but I can’t have your holiday”

The extent to which you (the Coach) take responsibility for the client’s results is the extent to which you create codependency

A good coach will keep pointing out any C>E violations they hear

“As a coach I’ll do everything I can do – whatever it takes to facilitate your results”.

How does Cause & Effect work?
If forms the basis of all beliefs: "x causes y". It is identified by the words "make, if... .then, because, as, causes". People frequently (mistakenly) believe that "When he does _____ I feel ____". In fact, they are saying is that another person's action changes their state. Now you can't experience anything outside of your own nervous system. The truth is that no one’s actions outside of your nervous system causes you to change emotional state - you change your own state. It's not them, it's you. The other problem with this mistaken belief is that it implies that the other person can't change if they want to, and is dependent on others for how they feel. You either get the result you wanted, or reasons why you didn't. Another name for reasons is excuses. And there are only three excuses:

1 Negative emotions: you're scared, overwhelmed, sad, lonely, hurt, etc
2 Inefficient strategies: what you're doing isn't the way to do it
3 Limiting Beliefs: you don't believe you can/need to/will/deserve to

Get rid of these 3 and then there's only results. To recover the cause, use language like:

When did you decide that.....? What is it within me....? What was my intention in creating that ?
What causes it to be this way ? Is this person at cause ? How does cause you to choose to be ?
What is there to learn here ?

What if Cause & Effect is true?

Think about it – if you want a result, and you feel great about going for it, you believe you can and you deserve it, and you have a specific “how to” plan to get there, what could possibly stop you?

You would be more empowered, because you would be taking total responsibility for the results in your world. All of it. In HGE we say “the meaning of any communication is the response you get”. If you try to encourage someone but you demoralize them instead, then you communicated demoralization. Alter your approach. Being at cause does not imply fault, or blame. It implies choice. Let go of the ego, and attachment to why it isn't working. Be willing to let go of the things that aren't working, and alter your approach. It’s not about blame or fault. Those are value judgments - It’s about handling it. 100% value from this book lies with you– it’s how you use the information in this book to get results that counts. Use it or lose it.

And if you choose to be at effect then you’re still at cause

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